If you read my previous posts, you’d know that I’ve moved four times, lived in different cultures and had to figure out a lot on my own. As a teenager starting a new life alone in Germany, I faced not only pressure from school, but also the challenge of adjusting to a new culture and environment. Then came the pandemic—an entirely different struggle. It forced me to face difficulties in my studies and in my relationship at the time. The worst part? I didn’t even understand why exactly I was feeling so unwell. Over time, I realized that it was a result of ignoring my own needs, emotions, and inner voice for far too long.
That’s when I started working on myself. The three things that helped me most were getting help from a life coach, meditation, and reflection.
1. Getting help from a Life Coach
I had online sessions twice a month for a few months, and they really helped a lot. Between sessions, I would still ask questions, and my coach would respond with voice messages, offering continued guidance. Each session lasted about two hours, covering topics such as studies, relationships, and family. Before each session, I would choose a topic to talk about.
These sessions helped me understand myself better, set boundaries, and gain a clearer perspective on how the world works. Although I stopped once I no longer needed them, I always recommend finding a great life coach or psychologist—someone genuinely invested in helping you overcome challenges efficiently, rather than keeping you in therapy for months without meaningful progress. I’ve never had sessions with traditional psychologists, but from what I’ve heard, they often focus on listening rather than driving real change. Being heard is important, of course, but it shouldn’t be the ultimate goal.
2. Meditation
Through my coach, I discovered meditation in a way that actually made a difference. She had a Telegram channel where she shared guided meditations. I started practicing almost daily. Some meditations help calm your mind, but most focused on raising energy levels and manifesting what you wanted—love, prosperity, health, and more..
One of the biggest changes was that I started feeling more connected to my body. I could physically sense the energy shift during meditation. Over time, I discovered other coaches and different meditation techniques. One particularly powerful experience—funnel meditation—gave me (or so I think) energy to create my website, something I had wanted to do for a long time. No matter how well you feel, meditation is always a valuable practice for both body and soul.
3. Reflection: Learning From My Own Patterns
I don’t keep a personal diary (or not yet), but I have made a conscious effort to stay self-aware. Whenever something happened—especially if it triggered strong emotions—I would ask myself why it affected me so much. Over time, I started recognizing patterns in my reactions. Certain situations kept repeating, and they always evoked the same emotions. I realized that unless I understood why these things triggered me, they would continue to happen.
For example, if someone said something that deeply hurt me, I wouldn’t just react and move on. Instead, I would take the time to recall exactly what was said, analyze how I felt, and try to uncover the root cause of my reaction. Where is the inner conflict? What lesson do I need to learn? What part of myself do I need to accept? The key is to focus on myself—not blame others. I believe that the people around us are mirrors, reflecting our own inner world. Once we acknowledge that, we can start making real changes from within.
Final Thoughts
Through sessions with a life coach, meditation, and reflection, I’ve built a stronger connection with myself. I’ve learned that growth happens when we start listening to ourselves, facing challenges, and understanding our emotions.
If you’re going through a tough time, invest in yourself. Whether it’s getting a coach, meditating, or just becoming more self-aware, doing the inner work is always worth it.